The 3 Most Important Times of My Day - #3
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The last two days I’ve been reflecting on what the most essential times of my days are. The first two (not in order of importance) were the individual time I have first thing in the morning, and the intentional time I plan/spend with my kids.
The third essential time of my day is the time I invest in my relationship with my wife Andrea.
Most of what I do, I do with Andrea. We choose to experience life in that way. It’s not very often that we ‘go to our separate corners,’ although there is value in that from time to time.
We hang out together and do things that we both enjoy. It may be watching a favorite TV show or movie together, working out together, or going on date nights. In fact, the older I get, the easier it gets to go out. Even when we didn’t have the money to go on frequent dates, though, we’d schedule a ‘date night’ at home and play cards together, or watch a movie.
It’s not just the scheduled ‘us time’ that makes it essential to me. Most everything that we ‘have’ to do, we’d rather be doing together. It might be working in the yard. It might be running to the grocery store. Whatever it is we enjoy doing it together.
When those times become less frequent - typically due to busy schedules when we find ourselves having several days pass before we connect with quality time - I can feel it. I can feel the ‘out of rhythm’ sense coming over me and the need to spend that time together becomes even more crucial.
This is truly ‘our life.’ It isn’t something that I approach as a ‘We need to do this to have a successful marriage,’ (although it is), it is something I look forward to, love doing, and can’t imagine life without her!
What about you? What are you doing to intentionally spend quality time with your spouse on a regular basis?
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Lisa shared their voice on 08.19.2009:
Kenneth and I had a “date night” to the grocery store last Friday night. Not the most exciting thing but at least we were together.
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Brooke shared their voice on 08.14.2009:
Mathew and I spend our lives very much the same way that you and Andrea do. I have found that over the years (we been together 13 years now) I want to spend more and more time with him, even if it means just laying on the couch watching a movie together. We make out the grocery list together and then go to the store together, we are even including the kids with that process, although when we leave the kids at home when we go to the store, we end up spending less money! When the kids were younger we didn’t spend as much time one on one, and we would spend a lot of time in on our own instead of together. I feel that is why our marriage is stronger now, because of the quality time we now spend with each other.